Get your head up and stomp the grounds in thankfulness for a new day and another chance at life. Do you make plans to get things done , but get chased by less important jobs? Things always sound good on paper until we get to work and understand painful effort is sometimes necessary.
Hold it and see things over the exact way. Start observing and appreciating small gestures of kind-heartedness. Start giving them out as well. Mommy and daddy consider you are the greatest being in the world, and for them, truly so, you are. You are their best resource, no matter what. But no one else considers you this way. At times you do a shitty job. Next times you just pure suck.
You run and hide. Learn from your limitations, absorb the criticism, and come out as a new and upgraded person. Does this make you go home and sulk about it on the couch? Did your friend leave in a pissed off mood for no actual reason today?
You are the only one champion of your story. If you like to complain to get into empathy from others, you are emotionally weak. Be daring. Trying to control my emotions is synonymous with behaving like a robot. After a hard day, choosing to do something to help you feel better — as opposed to staying in a bad mood — is a healthy skill.
Other people have the power to make me feel certain emotions. Other people may influence how you feel, but you are the only one in charge of your emotions. When people doubt their ability to tolerate certain emotions, it leads to avoidance. Someone who experiences frequent bouts of anxiety may pass up opportunities to be promoted. A person who feels uncomfortable with confrontation may avoid meeting with a co-worker to problem-solve a situation. Learning to deal with uncomfortable emotions directly builds confidence.
Negative emotions are bad. Anger, for example, often gets a bad rap. Showing emotion is a sign of weakness. Increased emotional self-awareness is key to achieving success in your personal and professional life. This is a BETA experience.
You may opt-out by clicking here. Emotional intelligence, the ability to identify, understand, and manage emotions, can help. In this case, it begins by learning to embrace the law of strength and weakness. Interestingly, the law of strength and weakness was derived from an article offering marriage advice, which I found also applied to workplace relationships. A person's strengths and weaknesses are often different facets of the same quality, like two sides of a coin.
They are inextricably linked, so that you cannot discard one without the other. To embrace the law of strength and weakness, then, is to learn how to leverage the strength while also mitigating the weakness. Here is where emotional intelligence can help. Because by building self-awareness, the ability to understand your own emotional tendencies and behavior, you can then build a plan to manage that behavior.
The first step to building self-awareness is to find a trusted colleague, family member, or friend with whom you can speak and get perspective. For example, if Mark and Jen were open to working together, they could prove to be excellent learning partners.
Jen could help Mark connect more deeply with his people. And Mark could help Jen deal with confrontation more effectively. The key is to choose a person who is strong where you are weak, and vice-versa, so you can help each other to achieve balance.
Over the years, I've learned to use simple, easy-to-follow "rules" that can help you manage your emotion-based behavior. These rules are constructed simply enough that a person can quickly go through them in an emotional moment, to help them avoid saying or doing things they later regret. With practice, they can be used to gradually change harmful behavior.
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